So right now, this guy I know is giving me the "silent treatment" because I refused to do something he wanted me to do and apparently I made him mad. It's not the first time. Actually it's not the first time I made him mad, and it's not the first time I've made a guy mad, period.
I don't think it's ever fair to stereotype all men because I know I have met a lot of great men out there dealing with them as friends, co-workers, etc. BUT talking about the good ones all the time does not really make this blog very interesting now does it?
You guys don't come here to listen to me singing kum-ba-yah-my-lord.
You like a little spice and some drama.
So. I just wanted to point out that I notice some guys like to use the "silent treatment" as a way to try to get their way or to try break me down. You know they will text/inbox/email you every day all day with the "hello beautiful" and "how's your day going beautiful" stuff or blow up your phone all the time wanting to talk to you or see you and then when you say or do something they don't like, they try to cut off communication thinking their lack of contact is going to turn you into an emotional wreck.
Um hmmm. Yep, that's what they try to do...
(1) First of all, since my divorce, I learned to be alone and I mean TRULY alone for the first time in my life. I made a commitment to myself to learn how to be a better me first before I jumped into anything with anyone. So, I've been ALONE and not dating anyone for YEARS now as I have chosen to find myself and find out what makes ME truly happy.
(2) I'm sort of an "only child" (I'm my mom and dad's only child) and I'm INTROVERTED. Leaving me alone to my own quietude and devices, is not punishment. It's more like sending a little kid to their room thinking you're punishing them and all their toys are in there.
Parent: "Go to your room"....
Several guys have tried to play this game on me and I simply move on and don't call them. Eventually THEY usually call me talking about "how come you didn't call me?" or "I wanted you to call me to show me that you care".....
When you're done with that nonsense....here's a healthier set of ideas and ideals:
10 Things Confident People Do Differently in Dating and Relationships